Home Life
Your need for stability in the home, and security in all areas of life in general, are especially strong. You like routine, as routine means stability, and while you are reasonably good at adapting to a new situation once you have been able to convince yourself of the sense of it, you do not welcome the idea of changes on any level and would much rather not have to adapt at all. At times those close to you, particularly partners, could accuse you of becoming boring in this respect, as your urge to create a safe and secure home life and fear of the unexpected can make you a slave to your chosen routine.
Material possessions and even status symbols give you immense pleasure, and you are not comfortable setting up a home until you feel you have the wherewithal to give a partner all the creature comforts they could ask for. You may at times become over-possessive of your acquisitions or lay too much emphasis on them, and your normally sound business head has its weak spot here. Glamour, life in the fast lane, is irresistible to you. Once in a blue moon, the temptation to break out of the steady, predictable, practical routine gets the better of you and you blow silly money on something that you just saw that was crying out. Whatever it is that appeals to you, it will not be something tastefully understated. What is the point, you would say, investing in a fine artwork if it is only visitors to the apartment that see it? More ‘you’ would be some mean machine you could take a mischievous pleasure in by revving at every traffic lights. “See this everybody?” you beam. “It’s mine!”
In the home, trendy or even kitsch items appeal to you, and you take a lot of pleasure in anything tactile and luxurious-feeling. Your home is your haven, so wherever possible there will be cushions, velvets, silk or satin in the bedroom, seats you can sprawl all over in the lounge, and the kind of carpets and rugs that you can really wriggle your toes into.
As comfort and security in your home life are so dear to you, anything amiss in this area of your life spills over into other areas and undermines your sense of stability there too. You are prepared to really put your back into work in order to supply material needs, especially as it so often happens that you are held back from getting the things you truly want. While possessive and proud of your material gains, nobody could ever call you tight, in fact generosity and a willingness to share with a friend in need are some of your trademarks. Sometimes this generous streak and sympathy towards friends can mislead you into lending to less than genuine ‘friends’ who promptly disappear into the sunset with the cash you, with the best of intentions, thought was going towards helping them out of a tight spot.
Home life presents its especial worries to you and your colourful imagination doesn’t help – you worry about problems before they happen, often needlessly fearing the worst. Your possessive streak extends to family members who may gently have to remind you that they are individuals too, and they may feel a little overwhelmed or claustrophobic watching you obsessively organise the details of domestic life as you see it. You haven’t quite mastered the art of throwing useless things away, and the top drawer is probably stuffed with odd socks that you have kept even after the other of the pair got a hole, just in case another sock from an identical pair also got a hole. Being an occasional scatterbrain in this department doesn’t help – many household bits and bobs disappear for years at a stretch while you protest “I put it somewhere safe so we’d know where to find it”.
A strong attachment to your own family (especially your mother) means that you may have taken a relatively long time to step out from the influence of parents. Your closest family are those of the same generation, and even now you may have some preoccupation with childhood events, in turn being somewhat ‘clingy’ when setting up a family of your own. You always had a strong urge to have children, and will take it harder than most parents when the time comes for a child to leave the nest, as it means that you cannot watch over them and keep them safe. Your tendency to worry is at its strongest where loved ones are concerned.
Love Life
You tend to treasure your own independence and dislike becoming over-involved with people, and as such this could make you a little too detached and reserved. Any partner you choose will need to reach a rapport and mutual understanding with you not only on an emotional level, but also on an intellectual one, sharing common interests and presenting you with a challenging personality. They will definitely need to be your friend before they even think of being your lover, and if there is not the meeting-point on all these levels you will be uneasy about starting a steady relationship. With potential partners, as with friends, you are strongly idealistic, maybe expecting too much of them and then being frustrated when they don’t measure up.
As such you can only show faithfulness to a partner once you are convinced the relationship is secure and has some mileage in it, and until the relationship gets to that point you can be an incurable flirt, maybe even getting into affairs. No doubt you would be a little less confident in embarking on affairs were it not for the fact that you have been blessed with the ability to wriggle your way off of the hook, in fact, despite being a normally genuine and earnest person, you don’t object to bullshitting for England when the situation calls for it. If you do have a ‘fling’ it may be very spur of the moment and you find you have expended your feelings on someone who does not return them. You can be as much of a risk-taker emotionally as you can be physically and financially, but have more resources than most when it comes to working to overcome obstacles in a relationship. Should a relationship fail you are optimistic enough to be able to bounce your way back from it with comparatively little grief.
At heart, though, no-one could deny that you are an old romantic, in fact it is one of your most obvious qualities. If you do sometimes become fickle or misled in relationships it is because your heart can lead your head and you ‘fall in love with love’. You happily let your romantic nature overrule your otherwise pragmatic, careful outlook and you make a sympathetic, understanding, lively and fun-loving partner. A partner could never doubt your strength of feeling as you are one of the most intense, physically passionate and demonstrably affectionate people around, and your tactile nature makes you the ideal person for a massage or general TLC.
A contented home life being your priority, you are prepared to sacrifice your own happiness or put your own ambitions on a back burner for the sake of a loved one. You may elevate a relationship to a near-mystical level, and from time to time have to be pulled down from cloud nine by the ankles with irksome details like paying the bills. The pleasures of a romantic night in are so irresistible to you that you have been known to start an argument for the sake of it just so that you can allow your partner to appeal to your sensitive side, and then delight in graciously patching up the argument – either with a posh meal or a snuggle on the settee!